If You Knew Me in “Real Life”

Do you know me?  Really know me?  How well does your following know you?

I saw this post on Peta’s blog a while ago and I felt called to write one of my own.

2020 has been a year already.  You’d know this if you’re on Twitter because Kylie Jenner wants 2020 to be cancelled for reasons beyond my comprehension because, uh, she’s Kylie Jenner.

2020 has Tiktok, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and goodness knows how many other platforms that allows you to show up as whoever you damn well please.  It’s equal parts exciting and terrifying that you can connect with someone on the other side of the world with a few clicks on your phone.

Everyone is online.  In one way or another.

It’s up to them to show up as their most authentic (or not) selves.  It’s up to us to decide who, what, when, where, how, and why we consume their content.  It may be down to their sense of fashion, their lifestyle, or – maybe – they just have an aesthetically pleasing Instagram feed.  It may be their sense of ambition and drive or their business aptitude.  It could be a best friend or a sister.

They – the “influencers” – let us into their lives, and we let them into ours.  Social media means you are connected 24/7.  The content you consume through social media, right down to the advertising on a bus, shapes your thoughts.  You are in control of what you give your attention, so take a moment to ask yourself the “why?” question.

Hell, I asked myself that question as I was scrolling through Instagram this morning and I ended up unfollowing 60+ people because their content no longer resonated with me.


If you met me through this platform and in “real life”, would the two make sense?

Would you be able to put the talks-too-fast, over-caffeinated, and always-running-later-than-she-would-like version of myself next to this online persona?

Like Peta, I have made some wonderful friends through the world of social media.  Some of them have translated to my “real life” and others – largely due to location – have stayed online.  Regardless, I scroll through their content and a genuine smile lights up my face because I know them and I’m happy to know them.


If you knew me in real life, you would know that I am twenty-five but I feel closer to thirty-four.  I have an undergraduate degree in Communications with a focus in Public Relations and Linguistics…and I have never, ever used my degree in the “real world”.  I am a lover of big cities but I feel at home when surrounded by forestry and in nature.  I currently live in Auckland and I work as a legal secretary for a team practicing criminal law.

I am a massive bookworm and have been obsessed with real books since I was in primary school.. I am constantly reading at least ten books at a time and have a continuous email reminder that I have more books to collect from my local library.

You would know that a triple shot flat white is my standard coffee order at any time of the day.  I am 90% coffee at any given moment, which probably explains why I talk a little too fast and can be a bit “jumpy”.  My favourite food is the fried chicken from Mexico, and rum and raisin ice cream.  I’ll never turn down a good gin and tonic or a Speight’s.

I am the human embodiment of a cat: hard to pin down, slightly aloof, detached, but demanding of your time, attention, and love when and I how I want it.  I’ll go on a date just so I can try out a new restaurant but I’ll order that second drink (or dessert) because I like the person.

I am an animal person.  I love them all and I follow far too many rescue groups on Facebook.  I fall in love with a new dog every day, but I have always wanted a Doberman.  I have already decided that I am going to call her Luna.

I’m big on astrology.  I am the epitome of a Taurus woman: loyal, resilient, tactile, and stubborn.  I own a tarot deck and I have so many crystals that I am constantly finding them in my car, handbags, pockets, and under pillows.

I am a mother of a three-year-old boy.  Trucks, trains, planes and the emergency services rule my world.  I spend a lot of my time reading stories, playing hide and seek, plane watching, painting, and kissing “ouchies”.  I have a variety of snacks and toys in my handbag at all times, including my workbag.  My house and car are always slightly messy but the sound of his laughter and how he points out a “cloud dinosaur” offsets the annoyance.  The fact that I don’t own any Lego makes life a lot easier.

And I’m probably the only person who actively wishes that summer would be over.

Now do you feel like you know me?

Putting yourself “out there” is never an easy feat.  You’re asking someone to see parts of you and accept them for what they are.  Accept you for who you really are.  It’s scary, but the absolute best thing about this human experience.  So do it.  You never know who you will meet along the way.

How about you?  If I knew you in real life, what would I know about you?

signature, the caffeinated millennial

5 thoughts on “If You Knew Me in “Real Life”

  1. I remember a situation of a friend a long time ago when a person who had a reader of her blog feel too familiar with her. What resonated with me was her response: she may pour her heart and soul out on the blog, divulged deep and private information / feelings / situation about herself, but that still was no basis for a reader to decide that they knew her.

    I try to keep that in mind when I follow someone’s blog. And i do realize that for myself. I tend to speak too freely about my thoughts and emotions on my blog, but in the end, knowing all those snippets about me still barely scratches the tip of the iceberg. We are all so much more.

    As for me, if you knew me in person, I would say that some things you would notice are I am short, I am loud, and I speak too much and maybe listen too little. I’m working on it! 🙂


    1. I do!! I love all of that stuff. I am an ISTP and I am a 9 on the Enneagram. I haven’t looked into the enneagram too much but the Myers Brigg is pretty accurate for me, especially when it comes to how I deal with relationships. Have you looked into it?


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